Listen Constructively

While we all know the importance of listening, today sales expert Dave Kahle shares the importance of listening constructively. It's a great read!

A study of the behavioral characteristics of the best sales people was published a few years ago. One of the not-so-surprising conclusions was this: The best sales people “listen more constructively” than their more average counterparts.

What does it mean to “listen constructively?” My wife is a crises counselor, and she talks about listening “empathetically.” That means that she listens to understand and relate to how people are feeling. But the study didn’t say great sales people listen “empathetically,” it said they listen “constructively.”

There is a clue to its meaning in the word itself. Think “constructively = construction = building.” Listening constructively means to listen for things upon which to build.

Great sale people ask great questions, and then listen more constructively. They focus intently on what the customer is saying, filter it through the perspective of things “upon which to build.” So, they build their next question on the braces and beams of the customer’s answer. As they dig deeper and listen intently, they gather a better picture of the customer’s issues, needs, situation, motivation and concerns. They form a clearer mental “blue print” of the selling situation, and are able, therefore, to provide a more accurate and appealing solution.


This, of course, flies in the face of a piece of conventional wisdom that proclaims that good sales people are good talkers. Nothing could be further from the truth. Good sales people are good listeners, not good talkers.

A study published by RainToday.com, found that 74% of 200 purchasers surveyed at companies nationwide said they would be “much more likely” to buy from a sales person if the seller would simply listen to the prospect.

Imagine that. Almost three quarters of customers would be more likely to buy if the sales person would just listen!

Listening well -- listening constructively -- is not a natural skill. It takes intentionality and dedication to work consistently at it and to become, over time, one of the best listeners. As in every aspect of sales success, the best decide to become the best, and put in the time and effort it takes to gradually develop the skills that take them to the top.

There are few things more important than listening well. The best do it better than the average. That’s why they are the best.

Dave Kahle is the President of the DaCo Corporation, specializing in helping business-to-business companies increase sales and develop their people. Learn more at www.davekahle.com